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Saturday, December 8, 2012

Acts of Kindness


Acts of kindness on Christmas Eve

When my children were little, each Christmas Eve we read the Christmas chapter out of one of the Little House on the Prairie books, all set in the 1860s. Often there were tremendous blizzards, and once a flood forced Santa to recruit Mr. Edwards to deliver gifts to his neighbors, the Ingalls children.

As the snow kept accumulating in Forest Grove, Oregon, one year, I wondered if I’d get to my children’s homes in North Portland. It was virtually impossible to drive in a city with very few snow plows and 1 foot of snow! Unlike the 1860s, I could take public transportation.

And so, at noon on Christmas Eve, I boarded the #57 bus in Forest Grove. The driver was expert at keeping the bus in the ruts created by other drivers. I thanked him for his skill, adding that while Santa was the most important visitor to my grandson’s house, I was right up there. I got off in Hillsboro and boarded the Max train to downtown where I’d get a yellow-line train to North Portland. At Pioneer Courthouse Square, as I stepped off the train, a man said, “If you're planning on the yellow train, it’s out of service.”

I called Jessica, my daughter, who, checking Trimet's website, confirmed this news and told me to walk 3 blocks and catch the #4 bus. I waited for half an hour in the freezing rain, chatting amiably with a young woman, a concert pianist, who was also waiting for the #4. The pass I had was good for 2 ½ hours. It was approaching 2:30. “My pass is about to become invalid,” I remarked. The young woman handed me another. I told her I couldn’t take it. “Please, take it,” she insisted. “I have plenty of them. Please. It’s Christmas.” I thanked her.

I called Jessica again and said I’d seen about 30 buses go by, but no #4s. My feet were so cold, I considered telling her I was going to back to Forest Grove, but I knew Christmas with a 7-year-old was not to be missed. And unlike Mr. Edwards, I wouldn’t have to ford any rivers.

She told me to go back and catch a different bus to the Rose Quarter where there were buses running up Interstate Ave. in place of the yellow line train. I did. The bus was packed, and warm. I was relieved, grateful I’d soon be taking my boots off on my daughter and son-in-law’s heated floors.

When my stop came, I had no choice but to step into a snow bank. I looked up and there were two women each extending their hands to help me out of the snow. I thanked them. It was just a four-block walk to my daughter’s house. Then I saw her, a fearless driver, in her car. I waved and got in, telling her I could have walked the 4 blocks to their house. “I’m going to Fred Meyer,” she said.  I considered crying, but decided I could choose to be happy no matter what. “Great,” I said.

Fred Meyer was so packed with people, it felt almost tropical. The lines were the longest I’d ever seen. Yet people were jovial. I stood in a long line with the cart while my daughter ran back and forth, dropping in a few items and then going off again to get the other things on her list. The woman ahead of me smiled. “That’s teamwork!” she said. A man nearby laughed as he remembered how he wound up in these long lines every Christmas Eve. Another man smiled and said, “I think of it as a cherished Christmas tradition.” We all laughed.

The time flew by and soon Jessica and I were headed to her home. My grandson screamed when he saw me. “NONNA!” he yelled, giving me a hug.

Later that night, as we tucked my grandson into bed, Jessica opened a small book. It was a collection of the Christmas chapters from the Little House books. She began to read about the Christmas when Santa asked Mr. Edwards to help him out. Thanks to his kindness, the Ingalls children had Christmas gifts. And thanks to the kindness of strangers, so did I.


Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Gratitude for Ordinary Days

Gratitude for Ordinary Days
By Debby de Carlo
©2007
Every Monday and Wednesday after my class ends at noon, I enter an enchanted world. I arrive at my daughter and son-in-law’s house just as Chris gets home from work and with my grandson in tow. “Nonna!” my 5-year-old grandson yells, running to me.

Inside the kitchen, my son-in-law makes lunch for his son, while I am bombarded with news and questions. “Look at my art projects, Nonna! Nonna, what is that red spot on your neck? Nonna, what are those silver things in your teeth? Nonna, how does the tooth fairy get in the house?” By the time I’ve answered the questions, Chris has prepared lunch for my grandson. While he eats, his father continues preparing food, now getting all the prep work done for the evening’s dinner. By the time my grandson is finished with lunch, his father has chopped two onions, grated 3 cups of soy cheese and made bread dough to rise. He’s efficient, and patient, too, fielding some of the rapid-fire questions from his son.

I am reminded of the last scene from Thorton Wilder’s Our Town. Emily, who has died in childbirth, relives her twelfth birthday. Then she rejoins the dead. As she looks back, she says, “Goodbye world! Goodbye Grovers Corners…Mama, Papa. Goodbye to clocks ticking…and Mama’s sunflowers. And food and coffee. And new-ironed dresses and hot baths…and sleeping and waking up. Oh earth, you’re too wonderful for anybody to realize you.” Sobbing, she asks, “Do any human beings every realize life while they live it? Every, every minute?”

Of course, life isn’t just about clocks ticking, Mama’s sunflowers and a visit from Nonna. Just ask anyone in Iraq, citizen or soldier. Or my friend whose grandson is gravely ill. Jimmy Stewart, playing George Bailey in the classic movie, “It’s a Wonderful Life,” becomes so depressed by financial reverses that he almost takes his life. A second-class angel, Clarence, helps Bailey see the rich blessings in his life by showing him what his town would be like if he had never lived. Bailey finds his mother runs a boarding house, his brother dead at 11, his wife a spinster, his children unborn. The experience leaves him praying for his life, problems and all. His prayers are answered, his changed perception evident in his happiness.

My daughter, a teacher, sees children every day in her classroom: children whose parents are loving and present; children whose parents are in jail or too strung out on drugs or alcohol to offer any kind of stability to their children. Around the world, children are dying of hunger, dying of preventable diseases, dying from contaminated water.

My son-in-law puts dinner in the refrigerator. “OK,” he says to my grandson. “Time for a tooth brush and a story. Do you want Nonna to read or Daddy?”
“Nonna!” my grandson exclaims. He knows I’m not available every day for story time. He is secure in the knowledge stories from Daddy can be counted on every day.
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